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How do you make an ex boyfriend fall in love with you again?

Is it even possible?

These are questions that you have probably asked yourself before. Well, today I am going to be answering both of them in this definitive guide. You see, every once in a while I decide to put a lot of effort into making a long in-depth guide on a particular subject. Out of all the articles I have written for this site it is the guides that visitors get the most out of and I expect this one to be no different.

The Truth No One Wants You To Know

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There are certain things in life that you have complete control over. For example, if you are watching T.V. then you have complete control over which channels you choose to watch. If you are surfing the internet on your smart phone then you have complete control over which websites you choose to visit (though I do recommend Ex Boyfriend Recovery 😉 .)

Of course, for all the things that you can control there are things that you can’t control on the opposite side of the coin.

As much as the relationship “guru’s” say different in the end you have absolutely no control in making your ex boyfriend fall in love with you again. That is fact. Now, before you spend the rest of your day crying I can tell you that there are certain things you can do that can increase your chances of getting him to fall for you again. In this guide that is what we are going to be focusing on, how to best improve your chances of making him have feelings for you again.

But before we get started I do want to mention that if you haven’t read my books,

Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO and The Texting Bible I highly recommend that you do.

Not only are they essential to helping you get your ex boyfriend back but they can be life changing.

Take Maureen for example.

Maureen implemented the advice in PRO and The Texting Bible and not only got her ex back but married him! (we are friends on Facebook now.)

I guess what I am saying is that if you want your ex boyfriend to love you again those are your tools to accomplish that.

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Let’s Get Started

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I need you to do something for me. Take out a sheet of paper and write the following things down.

  • When do I expect results?
  • Why did he/I break up with me/him?
  • What could I improve on?
  • Do I have the potential to be his “ungettable girl?”
  • Am I capable of the discipline it takes when talking/texting him?

It is really important that you write all of these down because I need you to answer them as honestly as you can. This is the moment of truth because just ONE wrong answer on the five questions above and I can tell you right now you are probably going to fail at re-attracting your ex boyfriend.

First lets take a look at what I consider to be the correct answer for all of these questions.

When Do I Expect Results?

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This question annoys me. Not because of the question itself but the people asking the question really get under my skin.

Hmm…. I guess that means YOU!

Every day I get an email from someone very angry/upset/crying because things didn’t go their way when they were trying to make their exes fall back in love with them. I do my best to calm them down, which can be a challenge in and of itself and then I start asking them about their situation.

Now, I understand that women who have been broken up with are very emotional creatures. However, it kind of makes me a little upset when someone emails me claiming “I have tried everything you have said” and I find out that their ex just broke up with them 10 days earlier.


Getting an ex boyfriend to fall in love with you again isn’t going to happen in a couple of days. Heck, it’s not going to even happen in a couple of weeks. In most successful cases I have found that it can take months and sometimes years to finally re-attract them.

Why Did He/I Break Up With Me/Him?

It is really important that you have a good grasp of why he broke up with you (or why you broke up with him.)

Why is this important?

Simple, it will give you insight on what behaviors that you need to avoid if you plan on making him fall for you again. It should also give you a good idea on what went wrong in your relationship the first time around. Using this valuable knowledge you can figure out if your ex is worth pursuing again and if you can potentially have a long lasting relationship with him.

This is important to know because the process of making him like you again isn’t going to be a short and easy one. It is going to be hard and require a lot of hard work and dedication. So, figuring out if you can have a successful and long lasting relationship with this person again is kind of an important thing to figure out.

What Could I Improve On?

Let me guess.

You were perfect in your relationship right? As far as you know you didn’t do anything wrong. Any problems the two of you had were usually caused by him.

While that may be true (the problems caused by him part.) I can tell you right now you were not perfect in your relationship.

As you will learn in PRO, humans by definition are imperfect creatures. I can tell you right now that any girl I date I am a very good boyfriend to but I am not conceited enough to believe I am a perfect boyfriend. I will make mistakes in a relationship just like she will. Now, there is a very negative connotation behind that word, “mistakes.”

I guess I just see the world differently when it comes to relationships. Most people freak out when a mistake is made in a relationship. I am different though. I like to dissect the mistake and ensure that I never make it again. It doesn’t just end there though, you can actually get a lot from watching other people in relationships.

One of my best buddies has been dating his girlfriend for about 4 years now. Whenever he messes up (and I mean messes up bad) I take a mental note to make sure not to make his mistake in any future relationship. So, the point I am really trying to make here is that there is always something to improve on if you look hard enough.

Do I Have The Potential To Be His “Ungettable Girl?”

This one may confuse you.If it does don’t worry, by the end of this guide it will make a lot of sense.

I am actually shocked that probably 90% of the people who visit my site don’t understand what an “ungettable girl” is. It is shocking to me because you absolutely need to know what one is if you plan on even having a chance to make your ex boyfriend fall in love with you again.

An “ungettable girl” is a term I coined to describe a certain type of girl. Well, I suppose that isn’t the best way to describe it. Really, an “ungettable girl” is an idea. It is something that every woman should strive to be because if she obtains this “state” she will have power over just about any man.

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The real question is do you have what it takes to become one?

Am I capable of the discipline it takes when talking/texting him?

This kind of ties in to our first question above (expecting results.) Like almost everything in life there is a right way and a wrong way to communicate with your ex boyfriend. The reason most people fail to increase their chances of making their ex have feelings for them again is because they communicate with him the wrong way.

Essentially, they want results too fast and don’t have the discipline to tell themselves to slow down.

Communicating with an ex the right way is going to take a lot of discipline. Results won’t occur overnight like you are hoping them to but the sooner you accept that fact and understand the basics of how to contact him (and what to say) the sooner you are in business!

What Is An Ungettable Girl?

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(For more in-depth details about the ungettable girl and how to become one please pick up Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.)

Before I really dive into specific strategies for making your ex fall for you all over again this is a concept that I need to hammer into your head.

The ungettable girl is the ultimate goal that you should be striving towards. Becoming one is your ticket to success not just in making him fall in love with you again but in making any man weak in the knees. Sounds too good to be true huh? Well, it actually kind of is.

The truth is that very few women ever achieve this status. Not because they lack the effort but because they physically and mentally can’t look and feel the part. Really though, this isn’t about looking and feeling a certain way. A true ungettable girl just is what she is, ungettable. She doesn’t have to try to be ungettable she just is. In essence, she becomes the part. She can walk into the room and men will look at her and know that there is an aura surrounding her. This aura makes them flock to her like white on rice.

Why Can’t Every Girl Become An Ungettable Girl?

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It is impossible for every single girl to become an UG (ungettable girl) otherwise every woman walking this planet would be an UG. I wanted to put this section together to show you WHY most women can’t be the UG. After you have a good grasp at that I am going to teach you what you need to do to become the UG for your ex boyfriend which should spark his interest in you again.

(Disclaimer: This is not going to be an easy section to hear. I am pretty confident that a certain portion of my readers are going to be disgusted with what I am about to say. BUT I am just going to be dishing out pure truth right now. If you can’t handle it then I am truly sorry.)

Men are cruel.

I want you to get that in your head right now. Heck, I want you to stereotype them all and make no apologies for it. I was once told that women are crueler than men and at one time I agreed with it. I kind of still do but here is the thing you have to understand about cruelness between women and men.

Women are cruel in a vocal way.

Men are cruel in a mental way.

That means that men will think mean thoughts about you but never tell you. They won’t tell you for a variety of reasons. Maybe they want to spare your feelings, maybe they just don’t think a conversation is worth the effort, maybe they are just insecure about themselves and project that insecurity onto you.

Make no mistake about it, I am as cruel as the rest of them. I can definitely fit into that “think cruel thoughts and never tell you” category. It is important that you understand this because what I am about to do is pull back the curtains and tell you some of the cruel thoughts I have thought about women over the years.

Now, before I do that how does this tie into the ungettable girl? With UG’s there are no cruel thoughts. Cruel thoughts are replaced with fantasies and weak knees which I will talk about a little bit later. For now, lets get back to some of the horrible things I have thought about women.

Wow, she is kind of chubby isn’t she?

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I can’t tell you how many times I have thought this about women. Pretty mean huh?

As you can see from my picture in the “About Me” section I am not a bad looking guy. This certainly factors into my overall sense of self and ego. Because I am a good looking male I have certain expectations about the women I date. I know this paints me in a shallow light but this is the truth, this is how my brain literally works. Any time I receive interest from a woman I put her through a number of very quick tests. Oh, and when I say quick I mean in five seconds. All it takes is five seconds for me to know if I am interested or not.

In the beginning for me and most men it is all about looks and yes, your weight plays into that. I notice any time a woman is a bit chubby or just plain fat. I am not trying to make you self conscious or anything like that but this is the gods honest truth. I will not date anyone who is obese, overweight or just a little chubby. This is why some women can never be ungettable girls. They simply don’t have the right look when it comes to their body.

Luckily, if you are a bit chubby or overweight this is something that is completely in your control. You can do something about it!

Wow, she is kind of ugly isn’t she?

Believe it or not but I can kind of feel your pain on this one. Remember above when I said that generally women are more mean in a more vocal way than men are. When I was around 13 years old there was a girl who I had a crush on. The only problem was that at 13 you really don’t know what to do when you have a crush on someone. Luckily, it turns out that the girl I had a crush on seemed to like me to.

Well, until something happened.

One day at lunch I heard the girl who I had a crush on talking to one of her friends. I couldn’t quite tell what they were talking about until the girls friend loudly blurted out:

“You like Chris Seiter?? EWWW he’s so ugly..”

I told you that story because I want you to know that I understand what it is like to be called ugly. Granted, being called ugly by a 13 year old girl probably doesn’t sting as much as compared to coming from a 25 year old but still, I do know what it is like.

With that being said there have been plenty of girls who I have thought were ugly. This is one of those really tough subjects because if you think that you are ugly then you are probably thinking “how can I become beautiful?” Heck, the whole make-up and plastic surgery industry is thriving because of this.

The sad truth is that with some girls no matter what they do they cannot change the way they look. You can’t change your facial structure just like I can’t change mine. It is such a tough topic to talk about isn’t it? Luckily though, first impressions aren’t everything when it comes to dating someone.

I always like to say that..

Looks get you in the door but your personality keeps you in the house!

It’s true that ungettable girls are usually drop dead gorgeous. However, there have been plenty of gorgeous girls that I have met over the years with horrible personalities that completely turned me off. Looks are everything…. but only at first.

Wow, she is kind of annoying.

This one is kind of hard to explain but I will do my best.

I think the reason I have so much trouble with this one is the simple fact that some women can annoy me and I just don’t know why. It is one of those weird things about me.

Maybe for me it is a specific way they talk, a specific attitude they are projecting that I don’t like or just the way they carry themselves. Nevertheless, there are certain women that I will just view as annoying just because. That’s not good enough for you though is it? Let me really think about any specific behaviors that I find annoying in women.


Ok, how about this.

I really get annoyed when women think they are entitled to things. For example, because they are “so pretty” the world just has to bow to them. It is actually women like that, that I want to lead on just to teach them a lesson. Pretty cruel I know but hey, this isn’t supposed to be an easy to hear section.

There are also those women that are extremely high maintenance. I don’t want to bad mouth anybody here but to me a high maintenance girl is someone like Kim Kardashian. Actually, she is kind of like the trifecta of annoying. She is pretty so she thinks the world has to bow to her. The way she talks is annoying to me and I just get this sense that she would stab anyone in the back to get ahead.

So yes, Kim Kardashian is annoying to me. Now, even with all of these qualities I would still date her if I ever had the chance. Maybe that makes me a hypocrite but I am about to tell you why. Yes, to me Kim Kardashian is extremely annoying but she is the definition of ungettable. She is very pretty, she has a pretty “rockin” bod and there is no way in the real world that a girl like her would ever date a guy like me.

Men always want what they can’t have. We are kind of complex aren’t we?

The Dream Of The Ungettable Girl

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How do you become an ungettable girl? As I stated above, the ungettable girl is the ultimate goal that every woman on this planet should strive towards. For me, the ultimate ungettable girl was that “girl that sat across the room in college.” About three years ago I was attending a college lecture for a biology class. To me, biology is a very boring subject so as you can imagine I was struggling to stay awake. I don’t know why I didn’t notice her before but about midway through the semester I happened to look to my left and spot probably a very beautiful girl.

She had brunette hair, blue eyes and a great smile.

Biology was over for me… For the next week any time I would walk into that class I could only focus on one thing, that girl.

Lets hit the pause button for a moment and discuss what happened here.

While I hadn’t talked to this girl yet I was already very attracted to her. I recognized her as ungettable immediately just because I have an eye for these things trust me. Anyways, what started to happen when I spotted her?

Well, I began to daydream.

What did I daydream about?

Well, I began to dream about what it would be like to take her on a date. The thing you have to understand about ungettable girls is that men will actually picture themselves on a date with them.

This quality, the daydream thing, has been present in me every single time I have met an ungettable girl. To men, it is what makes them so wildly attractive. Now, this brings up an interesting question.

How do you create this daydream world if you have already dated the person?

A sad truth about life that I have learned is that a daydream world is a lot nicer than the realty world. Thus, we can come to the conclusion that having a guy daydream about what it is like being with you is a lot more powerful than the guy actually experiencing it.

This is the one downfall of trying to get someone back.

However, dating someone certainly does have it’s advantages. I am guessing that like every relationship on this earth yours had it’s ups and downs. For now, I want you to throw the low points of your relationship away (no matter how low.) I want you to close your eyes and think back to the high points of your relationship. Do you remember what it felt like?

It is your job to leverage the high points in your previous relationship and recreate them. So essentially, I have turned your biggest disadvantage into an advantage because now you have something to shoot for.

That is really what making an ex fall in love with you again is really all about. Recreating the emotional moments of your previous relationship.

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The Buffy Phenomenon

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(The Buffy Phenomenon can be complicated to understand and implement. Luckily, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO can do the job for you.)

I want to stay on this train of thought for a minute longer because IT IS a big deal. I have just hit you with the knowledge that the best way to get your ex boyfriend to love you again is to recreate the high moments of your previous relationship. I like to call this the Buffy phenomenon.

That’s a weird name Chris. Why do you call it that?

Ok, I am about to lose some serious “bro” points here but without a doubt my favorite T.V. show is Buffy The Vampire Slayer. Not the horrible movie but the T.V. show. I don’t adore the show because I love the characters (although I do) or because I love the plot of every season minus 1 and 4 (although I do.) The truth is that I adore Buffy because of it’s emotional high moments.

Now, before you skip over this I want you to hear me out.

(Spoiler Alert)

At the end of season 2 there is a really emotional moment that makes me tear up every time I watch it (which is why I rarely watch it, to savor that moment.)

At the end of season 5 a sacrifice is made that literally brings me tears because you have so much invested in the characters.

In season 6 the best musical episode ever created happens and I giggle like a little school girl every time.

In season 7 you are just in awe of how far all the main characters have come and you begin to get sad because you know the end of the series is near.

(End Of Spoilers)

The point I am trying to make here is that once a year I watch the entire series of Buffy in order from season 1 to 7 (it just so happens I started my long trek last week which is why this analogy came into my head.) I watch it and can’t wait to get to those emotional moments because I know they will have an affect on me and bring me enjoyment.

I am a MALE that comes back and watches Buffy every single year because of the high points. Do you see what I am getting at here?

Because that show did such an amazing job of highlighting the high points I come back over and over again. Imagine if you could highlight the high points of your previous relationship with your ex and get him coming back over and over again .

That is what the Buffy phenomenon is, using the high points of your relationship to your advantage.

How To Highlight Your High Points

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There are actually a lot of different ways that you can use your high points to your advantage. For now, I am just going to be focusing on the most popular way which is through text messaging. This section is really important so I want you to pay attention.

The first thing I would like to talk about is my theory on controlling conversations.

Control Theory

Control Theory is something I talk a lot about in The Texting Bible so make sure you check that out.

One thing that I know about men in general is that we all like competition. Whether we admit it or not.

That is why we are obsessed with watching sports, playing video games and making the most money as we possibly can (to brag about it.) While I am not going to give my personal thoughts if too much competition is a good or bad thing I just want you to understand that men at their core are competitive creatures.

This competitive nature ends up flowing into our relationships as well.

Lets pretend that you (yes, you reading this article) and I are at a public event. We are both single and looking for a date. Using my advice on this site or in my E-Book you have achieved the status of “The Ungettable Girl.” I am instantly drawn to you. There is just one problem, all the other men at this public event are drawn to you as well. Not only will your value increase because of this but men will get competitive over each other for you. Of course, I will win because I am awesome ;).

It all boils down to our need for competition. We want to compete for you and beat other men for the prize. While that may sound a little degrading this is how most men out there think.

So, how does control theory play into all this?

Well, our whole goal here is to highlight the emotional high points of your relationship with your ex boyfriend. Since you have already dated this person and he has already “won” you the rules change a little bit. Instead of playing your regular “game” you are going to have to take a different approach.

I like to tell women to control everything when they are texting. That means you have to do things like:

  • End the conversation first.
  • Establish control AND make him chase you (reigniting his competitive desires.)
  • Knowing when to end the conversation when you are ahead.
  • Knowing the right time to highlight your high points.

It sounds pretty simple when you put it in a bulleted list like the one above but I promise you it is not. In fact, most women can’t get their exes back because they are not able to properly do the things on the list above.

Before we move on there is something really important that I need to discuss with you. It is the basis of my control theory. We have already established that an ungettable girl will maintain control in conversations causing the man to chase her (reigniting his competitive desires) but we haven’t discussed how to know if you are maintaining control correctly.

If You Are NOT Maintaining Control Correctly

Your conversations will be completely one sided. That means you will get a lot of thin responses from your ex any time you talk to him. Conversations will typically look like this:

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If You ARE Maintaining Control Correctly

Two things will happen. Either he will be very engaged in the conversation with very positive responses or he will put forth more effort than you in the conversation. The two outcomes you are shooting for here are:

  1. To have equal effort in the conversation.
  2. To have him put more effort into the conversation than you.

If this happens then what you are doing is working and keep doing it because he is going to view you as an ungettable girl. Oh, and before we move on I want to give you another visual aid so you know what a “good” conversation with your ex should look like:

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(For more texting examples I recommend you check out The Texting Bible.)

Emotional Memories

As I am writing this guide I am realizing how complex a subject this is. You see, when I write an article I try to answer every question I can think of. The problem with this guide is the subject matter is so complex I know you are going to have a lot of questions, questions that I simply can’t cover. So, if you are confused at any time just leave a comment or get my E-Book because everything is explained in there perfectly.

I am not going to cover when to use emotional memories because that would take about another 3,000 words which I don’t have. So, instead of explaining when to use emotional memories I am going to show you HOW to use them correctly.

Alright, we are about to Buffy phenomenon the heck out of your ex. However, before you go to war I want you to be prepared. This is going to take some work on your part but I think you might actually have fun with it.

Step 1

Take out a piece of paper and write down all the positive memories you can think of. (Obviously these memories have to include your ex boyfriend in them as well.)

Step 2

By the time you are done with that list you should have a minimum of at least 20 memories. If you have exactly 20 then great you can move on to the next step. If not, then you need to go back and think of more until you reach 20.

Step 3

Next, I want you to go through those list of 20 memories and pick out the ones that have an immediate emotional effect on you. For example, if you go down the list and get to memory #3 and you start getting butterflies then you can put a check mark next to that memory. Do not move on to the next step until you have 5 emotional memories that make your heart skip a beat.

Step 4

This is where things start to get a little…. tricky.

Up until this point you were combing through these memories from your point of view. Now I want you to switch places with your ex boyfriend and comb through them with HIS POINT OF VIEW. Go through the five memories that you picked out and think if he will be affected as much as you were by the memory.

IF you can pick out two of those memories that you know for a fact he will be affected by then you can move on to step 5!

Step 5

Alright, you have your ammunition but it isn’t time to go to war yet.

I need to describe how to construct this epic text message. Take one of the two emotional memories you picked and think back to how you felt during that moment. I want you to write down specific words that describe how you felt. I think the best way to show you this is to give you a personal example from me.

One of my favorite memories with my ex girlfriend was sitting on the couch in her house and cuddling/ just being close to her.

While I will admit that, that is kind of a lame memory to choose the reason I picked it is because I know for a fact she enjoyed that specific aspect of our relationship. Just being close and safe with one another. It was nothing sexual (though there were times) but it was just a feeling of being together that she and I both enjoyed.

So, the words I would use to describe that specific memory are.

  • Happy
  • Closeness
  • Excited
  • Togetherness
  • Safe
  • Protected
  • Daydreaming
  • Future
  • Bond
  • Strong

It is important to write these types of words down because you are going to be using them in your memory text message. Lets move on to the next step.

Step 6

It’s time to construct your memory into a killer text message. When this text message is used at the right time (keyword there is right) it can put your ex on the pathway to falling in love with you again and get him coming back time and time again (Buffy phenomenon anyone?)

The key to sending a good memory text message is in the details. At the same time the initial text message that you send can’t be too long. Thus, it is kind of a contradictory thing isn’t it?

I have found the best way to use emotional text messages to your advantage is to find a way to get the biggest bang for your buck. Your message can’t be more than 160 characters long but still has to pack a punch while describing the details. This is where those words I had you write down come in handy.

I would like to use my example above to further describe the correct way to come up with this text message.

So, the words I am going to pick from my list above are:

  1. Closeness
  2. Daydream
  3. Excited
  4. Future

I am now going to integrate those words into a text message. The key is to come off not emotional while being emotional. For instance:

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(Notice how I “all caps” the words I used so they stand out so you can see for yourself.)

If you want more advice on how to text your ex boyfriend using emotional memories please check out “The Bible.”

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In Person Tactics

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All relationships end….


I am serious every single relationship that you have with another person will end.

You see, only two things can happen. Either:

A. One person breaks up with the other person.


B. One of you dies.

The truth is that there is only one relationship that you will ever have that lasts for your entire life. And that is the relationship you have with yourself. In this section I am going to be talking about something I have never talked about before on this site…. what to do to make your ex fall in love with you again in person.

But first, I have a question for you. Why did I mention that “the only relationship you have that lasts your entire life is the one with yourself” stuff?

Any volunteers to answer that question?



Well, I have done a lot of research and have a lot of experience with in person tactics and I can tell you that you are going to fail if you aren’t comfortable in your own skin. If you are inexperienced at being social with other people, specifically people who you have strong feelings for then you are at a disadvantage. Have you ever wondered why I spend so much time on this site constantly telling women to work on themselves first before they try to get an ex back? Well, it is because of this.

I have seen women do everything right to get their exes back. They send the right text messages, they get the date but they end up falling flat on their faces because they don’t know how to recreate attraction in person. Well, that ends today because I am about to give you a brief overview of what you need to do to recreate that attraction.

The Importance Of Touch

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I don’t think you realize how important touch is to building attraction. Couples in love will hold hands, kiss, hug, cuddle and basically have their hands all over each other 24/7. I remember way back in High School when I got my very first girlfriend (and I am talking about first girlfriend.) Up until that point I had never even hugged a girl before (pretty lame I know haha.) Anyways, I just remember what a shock it was actually have a girl want to be held by me.

I remember thinking “WOW, this is kind of nice!”

When I think of our society in general I basically look at everyone as “touch attackers.” Any time we start to have feelings for somebody we either want to touch them in some way shape or form or be held by them. In all, everyone is obsessed with touching each other.

You can use this to your advantage when you are trying to make your ex boyfriend love you again. Below I have devised a method to integrate touch into your person to person communications with your ex boyfriend.

Planting The “Touch” Seed

On your first interaction with your ex you aren’t going to do anything risky. You are just going to use this interaction as a way to plant a seed. Your goal is to make him go home and think something like:

“Wow, I forgot how good it feels to just be around her and just to hold her.”

Obviously, there will be no holding in this stage but you want your ex boyfriend to think back to that “emotional high moment” and have it affect him. This is the Buffy phenomenon at work. Anyways, the way you are going to plant this seed is quite simple. There are really three main things I want you to do.

Thing 1: When you see him for the first time in person I want you to open up with a hug. Go up and hug him. Don’t hold the hug very long just make it a very brief, abbreviated hug.

Thing 2: Somewhere in the middle of the conversation I want you to gently touch him “accidentally” on the hand with your hand, on the leg with your leg, on the foot with your foot. Do you kind of see what I am talking about here?

Thing 3: When your time together is over I want you to end things with a hug. Just go up and do it. I don’t want their to be any awkward tension with the “do I hug her?” or “do I hug him?”

Kicking Things Up A Notch

Wow, I am excited!

I was kind of getting tired writing about the same old boring stuff so new territory is exciting for me. Alright, the second time you see your ex boyfriend in person I want you to try to hold hands with him again.

Pretty simple right?

Ahhh… it is a lot harder than you think because the holding hands part has to be his idea. So, all you can do is put yourself in a position by dropping subtle hints that will hopefully cause him to take the bait. Any time that the two of you go on a walk I want you to get really close to him. Well, specifically I want your hand to get really close to his. I don’t want you to hold hands I just want your hand so close that they touch every once in a while.

See if he takes the bait.

When And How To Kiss?

When do you kiss?

Well, I think it is safe to say that if you two are holding hands you can progress to kissing. Heck, holding hands is a pretty big step because that means he is interested in you. I have kissed girls who I had no feelings for before but I have never held hands with one I didn’t. So, don’t tell me that holding hands means nothing.

Now that you know how to kiss we need to discuss HOW to kiss.

Once again, you have to make the kiss seem like his idea.

And once again this is a lot harder than it seems. You are going to have to drop subtle hints and put yourself in a position where he will have to take the step to kiss you. Extended hugs are great for this. So, how this works is that you basically go to hug him except this isn’t a normal hug this is a more passionate one. You hold it a little longer and then once the time comes you pull away a little bit as he pulls away and then you look into his eyes for a while, get a little closer to him and see if he takes the bait!

The Friend Zone…

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This might be my favorite in-depth guide ever!

Not because of everything I have written up until this point but because of the knowledge I am about to unleash in this section. I bet you didn’t know this but you can actually use the friend zone to your advantage. Yup, there is a specific way that you can get your ex to want you back using the friend zone and I am about to teach it to you.

(DISCLAIMER: The tactics I am about to discuss should only be used as a last ditch effort if you have tried everything above and nothing has worked.)

The Attitude You Need To Master Before Doing This

This is going to be the hardest thing you have ever done. This will be harder than the no contact rule if you have ever tried that before. The reason this is so hard is that there will be moments where you will be really tempted to break because your ex (who you have feelings for) will be right there in front of you.

In the end you have to remember that while you want to date your ex boyfriend again you don’t need to date him again.

Think about that for a moment!

You want to date him but you don’t NEED to do it

Master that attitude and the following things will start to happen:

  • You will become more attractive to your ex boyfriend because you don’t “need” him.
  • You will feel better about the situation if things don’t go your way.
  • You will be a step closer to obtaining “ungettable girl” status!

Why Your Ex Boyfriend Will Never Commit To You

This is the million dollar question isn’t it?

When a couple breaks up usually:

  • The girl breaks up with the guy.
  • The guy breaks up with the girl.
  • The couple both agrees to mutually part ways.

Whatever your specific case is one thing is guaranteed, you are here because your ex won’t recommit to you when you want him to and need advice on how to get him to do that. Well, before I actually give you advice I think it is important to study WHY he won’t commit to you.

In my experience the reason for his non commitment to you is quite simple.

A man won’t commit to a woman unless he feels like he has to in order to keep him from losing her.

Let that sink in for a little bit. Your ex boyfriend won’t commit to you because he feels he can have you at any time. There is no sense of urgency. This is one thing that men find undeniably attractive about the “ungettable girl.” They never feel like they can have her thus the competition for her begins!

The Friend Zone Tactic

Now the question shifts from “why won’t he commit to me?” to “how do I get him to commit to me?”

In this section I am going to discuss a highly controversial tactic. I want to repeat that the only time you should use this tactic is if you have tried everything else above. Essentially, this is your last ditch effort to reignite his feelings and make him fall in love with you all over again.

I want you to put your ex boyfriend in the friend zone and before you get confused I am talking about putting him in the real friend zone that everyone is so afraid of. This will take an amazing amount of discipline on your part because the truth is that you still have feelings for this person and putting him in the friend zone goes against everything you think is right.

Nevertheless, you have to do it for this to work.

The trick to this is to treat him like your gay best friend. Once you have your new gay best friend in place I want you to the following things:

I Need Some Guy Advice Tactic

Whether or not you use this tactic is completely up to you. It is kind of mean and again, will take a lot of discipline on your part BUT it can be highly effective. So, essentially how this works is you send your ex boyfriend the following text message:

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You will then proceed to ask his opinion on a subject about another guy “who you have feelings for.” There are a number of reasons you are going to do this. First off, it might make him a little bit jealous and jealousy is never a bad thing because it just proves he does have feelings for you. Secondly, it is an attempt to reignite his competitive desire. Remember, men love competition. Lastly, men always want what they can’t have. What is more unobtainable than a girl who “likes” someone else.

It’s Nice To Have A Friend Like You

What is another thing that you devilish women do to men in the friend zone?

Oh, I know!

Every once in a while you pepper in a text message like this:

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This will further reiterate your stance of having your ex boyfriend in the friend zone.

Friend Zone Lead On

You didn’t think it was over did you?

Oh no, there is a lot more to this than just putting an ex boyfriend in the friend zone. One thing that I know about men is that they love the chase. We don’t like easy women. Now, before you start trotting out evidence of how one of your friends is “easy” let me ask you something.

Has this “easy” friend ever had a lasting relationship? If she has was the guy just complete scum?

If I was a betting man I would say that she hasn’t and if she has the guy was a complete jerk. The truth is that men who go after easy women don’t want a real relationship with them, they just want a one night stand with no strings attached. True relationships can be formed off of the chase.

Now, the real question is how do you get an ex boyfriend to chase you again. Well, you did it once so you can do it again.

Putting him in the friend zone is a start but it won’t be enough. You are going to have to do something extra and that something “extra” is what I like to call the friend zone lead on.

Step 1

When he is in the friend zone do not respond to his advances at all (if he gives you any.) Reaffirm your decision to put him in the friend zone by subtly sprinkling in variations of the tactics I described above.

Step 2

I want you to notice other men, I want you to go on dates with other men (even if you still have feelings for your ex boyfriend.) When you do notice other men make sure you do it while with your ex (who is now friend zoned.) It is also important to NOT rub it in his face. You have to notice them subtly.

Step 3

Once you feel you have done a pretty good job of putting your ex in the friend zone I want you to start flirting with him. Make sure he flirts back as well. This is really important because you want to start to give him some hope that he has a chance with you when before in the friend zone he didn’t feel he did.

Step 4

Once you have him hooked in the flirting I want you to put him back in the friend zone and stop flirting with him. This will confuse him. You are giving him mixed singles and a sense of urgency will be created.

Step 5

Repeat the process over and over until he begins chasing you. Once that happens open the door to take him back!

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