How To Make A Guy Fall In Love With You Over Text (2023)

By Nadine Piat

Let me guess, you have a phone and you also have your heart set on a man and you want him to fall madly in love with you.

People fall in love every day, and while how they fall can vary quite a lot from one person to another, there is no denying the way you connect with a man is critical.

Whether you like texting or not, this mode of communication is here to stay.

Knowing how to text a guy you like can greatly influence the way he feels about you. just as his messages influence the way you feel about him.

If you want to drastically cut down the time it takes to build a deeper bond with a man, then this is for you, because I’m going to reveal how to make someone fall in love over text.

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Texting is powerful. You can use texting as the glue that keeps the interest alive with a new man or you can use it to reignite desire and bring playfulness back into an existing relationship.

When you text the man the right way, he’s intrigued and his interest will skyrocket. He will either see you as the keeper you want to be or he will see you as a fun time woman with whom he has no future.

This is why it’s important to know how to text a guy in a way that spikes the right kind of interest — the loving, adoring kind.

So let’s get back to ways make him fall in love over text.

I know this sounds like a big order, but words are powerful and texting is a legitimate way to build a connection.

Here’s what you need to remember about texting a man: if you want him to drool for you and go gaga over you, then you need to talk to his heart in all of your messages. Yes, you want to inspire attraction, but in the early stages, there are ways to ignite his loving feelings that go deeper than a casual connection.

If want to make a man fall in love with you, follow these 7 tips on how to text a guy in a way that has the power to capture his deepest interest.

1. Start with the sassy text.

The first text to make him fall in love over text message is this sassy text. Be different, be unique, and share something about you that’s unpredictable. Men love intriguing women.

Here’s an example of a sassy text to send a man:

“Woke up early today but decided to get up and drive to the beach to watch the sunrise.”

This shows that you’re not like most people who just stay in bed. It also reveals that you’re motivated and a little adventurous. This is alluring without trying to be.

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Texting a man like this is effective because it takes the pressure off him to feel as though he always has to take the lead and be creative. This makes him realize that you might be able to add something to his life. It makes you more interesting and captivating.

Be sure not to advertise falsely. Don’t tell him you’re doing something you’re not, like skydiving. Lies catch up with us and are never a good start to any romance.

2. Next, move on to the cute text.

Put a smile on his face by sending him a cute little text about something you’re doing and he is not there to share. Or send something sweet and funny to let him know you’re thinking about him even when you’re not together.

Men like attention. And while he might never admit it, he loves to know you’re thinking about him when you’re not together.

Too many women actually discourage men when, in fact, what most men need is more encouragement.

Here's an example of a cute text you could send:

“I can’t stop smiling all day just thinking about you.”

This is a sure winner. This kind of text tells him that he's made an impression and you’re still thinking about him, which is encourages him. This kind of text goes straight to a man’s heart and ego without being too obviously flattering. Whatever you hear, men love a little bit of an ego pampering. They like to know that they’re best even, if they don’t let it on.

Also, men like cute. Period. It’s one of those things that makes them feel strong and powerful enough to take on the world.

Just be careful not to flatter him too much. Think drip feeding, not mushy overfeeding.

If you’re too grandiose about how amazing he is, he might think it’s strange and like you have unrealistic expectations.

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3. Now you're ready for the funny, quirky text.

If I may paraphrase, laughter makes the heart grow fonder. If you can make him laugh, you can make him yours.

In case you’re wondering how exactly to make a guy laugh over text, let me tell that you pretty much anything goes; as long as it’s funny to you, you should be all right.

Here are a few random "fun facts" style texts you can send:

  • “I just heard that it’s impossible to sneeze with your eyes open.”
  • “Did you know chewing gum while peeling onions will keep you from crying? Want to try it?”
  • “This is kind of strange. I found out what’s called a French kiss in the English speaking world is known as an English kiss in France.”

Humor is hugely powerful to build a connection with a man. The way to anyone’s heart, yours included, is through their funny bone.

4. Move on to the straight-up text.

This is a hot classic in the digital age. The straight-up text tells him that you’re a no-nonsense kind of woman who is confident enough to express what she wants rather than wait for the man to call all the shots.

Here's an example of a straight-up text:

“I just want you to know I really like you. That is all.”

Most men don’t like beating around the bush. They like and appreciate directness and confidence In a woman. By taking the lead occasionally, you’re telling him that you’re an empowered woman who can contribute your fair share to the relationship.

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Yes, you like him to lead and he likes to lead. And he also values a woman who’s engaged and engaging, not always needing him to prove himself at every turn.

When you do this from the heart, he will receive it with gratitude.

In fact, if, after weeks of calling and texting a woman, she doesn’t start reciprocating, a man is likely to lose interest. Men feel like a woman who doesn’t reach out at all is either not that interested, lack confidences or is playing games.

These kind of men are looking for a co-pilot in life, not a passenger.


Now that you know what sort of texts to send a man to get his heart beating faster for you, here a couple of advanced tips for your texting strategy.

5. Be more assumptive in your messages.

You might be wondering what on earth this means, particularly when most of us have been brought up to never assume anything about anyone.

In the world of texting, however, this is magic.

If you want to meet up with the guy rather than wait for him to ask you out, you can send him a text message in a way that suggests you already know that he would, of course, want to join you.

Here's an example of an assumptive text:

“I just heard about the best new series on Netflix. Let's watch it together tonight!"

This is attractive and alluring to a guy because you’re assuming his answer is a yes and you’re approaching him with pure confidence.

He will love you for this, and you can use this type of flirty text for anything you could do together that fits.

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6. Don’t overindulge in texting a man at the expense of everything else in your life.

A sure-fire way to get a man hooked is to be careful not over-text him.

For example, if you’re exercising and texting him would stop the flow of your workout, why would you read and respond to his texts before you're done?

When you do this, you’re not honoring yourself completely. Perhaps wait to respond until you're showered and settled again, or you can send a quick text telling him you’re about to exercise and that you’ll respond later when you're free again.

The same goes for when you're already busy doing anything. Sure, he will like the attention and knowing you’re prioritizing him, but he'll also wonder why you’re not doing what you were supposed to be doing and what other people you're letting down might be thinking of you.

Not being present and available to your friends, your workout routine or your work is not what you call positive behavior.

Don’t be a slave to technology or to him. He will love you for this and he will also love it when you spend time with him and you’re not constantly texting anyone else.

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7. Don’t flood him with texts.

Texting should be like a tennis match. You wait for him to return the ball before you send one back.

While texting is important in a budding romantic relationship, if done excessively, it creates a false form of attachment.

Being clingy or needy in your tone or texting at a stalker-like frequency is not what quality men find attractive.

If this sounds like you, I encourage you to have better texting boundaries and etiquette, not only to keep him interested, but to honor yourself. Text from a place of self-love and flow versus neediness and force.

Again, exercising healthy texting habits builds respect and interest.

He’ll know you have a full life without him, and that’s pretty appealing.

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Nadine Piat is a writer, speaker, coach and expert in the fields of healthy love, breakup recovery and confidence.. She has over 10 years of experience teaching people how to build attraction, create soulful love, cultivate unshakeable confidence, bolster their self-worth, and gracefully communicate.

This article was originally published at The Mind's Journal. Reprinted with permission from the author.


Can a guy fall in love through texting? ›

A lot of studies have shown that texting is a great way to start a romance, especially because of how convenient it is and doesn't make the people involved feel the ‌awkwardness that comes with meeting in person. An interesting research even found that it takes 163 text messages to fall in love with someone!

What texts do guys like to receive? ›

Take a look at our whole list of loving texts for him.
  • I definitely have become a better person because of you. ...
  • I had a dream about you last night.
  • You honestly make me laugh harder than I've ever laughed before. ...
  • My day would've been much better if you were in it.
  • I could text you until two in the morning.
13 Nov 2020

How do I get him interested over text fast? ›

Let's jump right in:
  1. 1) Be creative in your texts. ...
  2. 2) Keep it short so he doesn't get bored. ...
  3. 3) Send him funny texts. ...
  4. 4) Make him feel needed. ...
  5. 5) Don't ask him where he's going or when he's coming back. ...
  6. 6) Don't text him too often. ...
  7. 7) Show him that you have a life that doesn't include him. ...
  8. 8) Be positive.
6 Feb 2022

How do you make a guy chase you? ›

To get a man to chase you, flirt with him by making eye contact, playing with your hair, and teasing him, to get his attention. Another way to get his interest is to let him see you talking to other men, since he'll want you more if he thinks there's competition.

How do you make a guy obsessed with you? ›

How To Make Your Boyfriend Obsessed With You
  1. Make Your Boyfriend Feel Loved. ...
  2. Make Him Feel Valued. ...
  3. Be An Equal Partner In a Relationship. ...
  4. Be Educated and Smart. ...
  5. Don't Be Afraid To Have Fun. ...
  6. Allow Yourself To Be Vulnerable. ...
  7. Take Care Of Your Looks.
23 Aug 2022

What to text a guy to make him want you? ›

Flirty texts for him
  1. Thinking of you just makes me smile…
  2. You. ...
  3. I was just reminded of the time that we….( ...
  4. Do you want to know the first thing that I will do, when I see you? ...
  5. Miss me yet?
  6. You have the best smile…
  7. Flirting with you is one of my favorite things to do…
  8. I really wish that I was in your arms right now…

How do I make a guy want me? ›

12 Simple Tips On How To Make Him Want You – Infographic
  1. Feed His Ego.
  2. Send Him A Picture.
  3. Dress Up.
  4. Use Body Language To Entice Him.
  5. Show Genuine Interest In His Hobbies.
  6. Wear Some Perfume.
  7. Play Hard To Get.
  8. Send Him Little Treats.

How do you make a guy miss you badly? ›

8 Ways to Make Him Miss You
  1. Let him take initiative. ...
  2. Don't let him think he has you too soon. ...
  3. Don't say 'yes' to him every time. ...
  4. Make him feel like he can't live without you. ...
  5. Make the time you spend together amazing so he wants you around more. ...
  6. Make him miss you by not contacting him.
17 Jan 2021

What do guys like being called? ›

Sweetheart / Sweetie

These are some of the most meaningful terms of endearment for a man. You might think these are nicknames for girls. But believe it or not, guys really love being called “Sweetheart” and “Sweetie” too! Both these nicknames are a great way to show a guy how lovely it is to have him in your life.

What a man needs to hear from a woman? ›

I respect you

One of the major things men want from women is respect. A marriage where the man is respected breeds love for the wife, and the same goes for a relationship. If you respect your husband, you should tell him from time to time because it is one of the things guys like to hear.

What do guys find attractive? ›

Here are 10 things that men find attractive about women according to this survey:
  • Embracing the style. ...
  • Being an equal. ...
  • Taking the lead. ...
  • Being confident and smiling. ...
  • Laugh at their jokes. ...
  • Passionate women. ...
  • Maintaining eye contact. ...
  • You keep him intrigued.
14 Sept 2022

Do I text him first or wait? ›

You should text him first if, you're reaching out to him to genuinely connect and communicate with him. If for any reason you're texting him based on worry, fear or anxiety. Such as, trying to “keep his interest” or manipulating him to do something for you.

How will u know if a guy loves u? ›

Many times, the true signs are in the little things like his body language, the way he prioritizes you, or when he goes out of his way to try to make you happy. Other signs he loves you are that he asks for your opinion on things and he says nice things about you.

How do I ignore him to get his attention? ›

So let's look at ten ways to ignore him to get his attention.
  1. Ignore and fuel his ego. This method allows you to control how he feels. ...
  2. Become less available. ...
  3. Get busy. ...
  4. Play his game. ...
  5. Stay back and watch him come. ...
  6. Show your worth. ...
  7. Don't be easily triggered. ...
  8. Ignore some of his texts.
6 Aug 2021

How do you ignore a man and make him want you? ›

Ignore Him Step by Step
  1. Don't put his needs first. When you don't put his needs before yours, you are one step closer to mastering the art of ignoring him properly. ...
  2. Focus on yourself. ...
  3. Awaken the hunter within him. ...
  4. Resist the urge to reply immediately. ...
  5. Keep him hooked. ...
  6. Make him feel jealous. ...
  7. Try not to be emotional around him.
12 Aug 2020

What is the 12 word sentence to say to your man? ›

Here is the text:

Thank you for being my hero.” Sending this text to your man is a surefire way to trigger his hero instinct and make him feel more connected to you. If you're looking for a simple but powerful way to reignite the spark in your relationship, the 12-word text is a great place to start.

How do I make him desperate forever? ›

  1. Never Demand Him For Commitment. ...
  2. Take It Easy And Let It Flow. ...
  3. Love People Around Him. ...
  4. Appreciate Him With Rewards. ...
  5. Give Him Your Attention And Affection. ...
  6. Blend Well With His Life. ...
  7. Make Him A Dependable Person. ...
  8. Don't Make Him The Center Of Your World.
7 Jun 2022

What things guys like to hear? ›

21 Sweet Nothings He Needs to Hear
  • of 21. "I'm so lucky to have you" ...
  • of 21. "I appreciate all you do for me" ...
  • of 21. "You're a great father" ...
  • of 21. "You look buff" ...
  • of 21. "I'm listening" ...
  • of 21. "I'm sorry" ...
  • of 21. "Your friends are fun" ...
  • of 21. "Good morning.
20 Jun 2017

Does silence make a man miss you? ›

The simple answer to the above questions is yes. When you walk away and make him miss you, it's typical for a man to come back to you. The power of silence after a breakup is highly effective in making your partner come back. To start with, going silent after a breakup is a sign of confidence and self-esteem.

Do guys like being called baby or babe? ›

In a heterosexual relationship, it's completely acceptable that the woman also calls the man babe or baby. Guys like it because it makes them feel special and loved. They feel as though they belong to their partner and are close to them. It also works wonderfully into a compliment.

What do you call a guy instead of babe? ›

Adorable Nicknames for Boyfriends
  • Babe/Baby.
  • Buddy.
  • Bubba.
  • Bubs.
  • Fluffy.
  • Lovey.
  • Papa Bear.
  • PIC (as in "partner-in-crime)
15 Apr 2022

What do guys like about a girl's appearance? ›

Clear skin is something that men, adore — doubly so if it's soft. Regular facials, the occasional trip to the dermatologist, and just having an overall healthy look to your skin is really attractive to just about everyone out there. For some guys, well-styled hair is their kryptonite.

What are the 4 words every man wants to hear? ›

"I love you a lot." "You are so smart." "Rip my clothes off." Although I'm fairly certain that most men I know would enjoy hearing any of these three four-word sentences from a spouse, there is another sentiment that trumps all of these: "You make me happy."

What do men love in a woman? ›

Men love women who are thoughtful, caring, loving and kind. A woman who does little things for her man for no other reason other than that she loves him. A woman who makes him smile back whenever she smiles at him. A woman who radiates love and warmth from her heart.

What to say to make him feel like a man? ›

How To Make Him Feel Like A Man | 3 Perfect Phrases! - YouTube

What do men find unattractive? ›

Poorly manicured nails, hairy legs and unshaven armpits are major turn-offs for men. Poor personal hygiene cannot be hidden by makeup and nice clothes. Yes, men notice. The sight of a dried heel, oily face or peeling skin is a warning to "back off.” Don't expect to turn him on with cracked lips.

What a guy notices first in a girl? ›

A lady's mouth is often the very first part of a woman a guy will see. Not only are great lips and teeth sexy, but guys will look to your mouth for social cues, as it's the most expressive feature you possess. A warm, inviting smile might communicate, 'Here I am, come talk to me.

What do guys secretly find attractive in a girl? ›

10 Things Guys Find Attractive in A Girl
  • Your smile. Men adore it when a girl smiles because of something he said or laughs at his jokes. ...
  • Your waist. ...
  • Most men actually dislike dyes and unnatural colors. ...
  • Long legs. ...
  • The way you walk. ...
  • When you wear red. ...
  • When you stretch. ...
  • 12 Traits that Make You a Less Attractive Person.

What time is best to text a guy? ›

Text at normal hours

It's best to text in the afternoon or evening and not early in the morning or late at night, Ansari and Klinenberg say. Otherwise, you run the risk of waking the person up.

What to do if he ignores me? ›

Feeling Ignored? What to Do When He Ignores You
  1. Call out the behavior. ...
  2. Try other forms of communicating. ...
  3. Give him permission to dump you. ...
  4. Embrace vulnerability. ...
  5. Assert yourself early on. ...
  6. Don't overcompensate by texting/calling too much. ...
  7. Leave him for a few days.
3 Apr 2018

Will a guy text if he likes you? ›

Usually, a guy will text you if he's interested. Dating tips that are tailored specifically to your circumstance and needs can be hard to find, but it is generally true that a guy who's interested will text you to show their interest.

What's a good first text to a guy? ›

😉” Grab his attention by making your first text more than just "hi." These days, "Hey, what's up" is a pretty old and basic greeting, and not likely to elicit much enthusiasm from him. Give your first text some originality, and make sure it's something the guy can easily respond to.

Can you develop feelings for someone through texting? ›

Yes, you can definitely develop feelings for someone through texting.

How do you know if someone is in love with you over text? ›

Then keep a look out for one of these telling text habits.
  • They Reach Out At Significant Times. ...
  • They Always Get Right Back To You. ...
  • They Keep You In The Loop. ...
  • They Have A Special Language They Use With You. ...
  • They Pay Attention To Your Life. ...
  • They Send You Lots Of Memes & GIFs. ...
  • They Ask Lots Of Questions.
8 Jul 2019

How do you know a man is falling in love with you? ›

Signs He's Falling in Love With You
  • He loves to spend quality time with you. ...
  • He does everything to keep you happy. ...
  • He prioritizes your needs. ...
  • He finds you unique and accepts you unconditionally. ...
  • He wants you to meet the important people in his life. ...
  • He does everything in his power to protect you. ...
  • He sees his future with you.
6 Jul 2022

Is he into me or just being nice? ›

The closer he wants to be to you, the more he probably likes you. This body language is a minute way that guys go for physical contact. People who are just being nice don't want to get closer and closer to another person. Instead, they'll keep a safe distance and might lean away if you try to touch them.

How do you know if a boy likes you but is hiding it? ›

Signs He Likes You Even If He's Hiding It
  • When he looks at you, he can't help smiling. Once I was out with Sam in a cafe. ...
  • He always finds excuses to talk to you or spend time together. ...
  • He asks you a lot of personal questions. ...
  • He remembers the little details about you. ...
  • He always makes an effort to keep the conversation going.
5 Jul 2022

How does a man in love behave? ›

They will start to obsess over giving her presents, taking her out to nice places, and just trying to make her smile. So, if you notice that he's amping up trips to fine dining establishments, giving you flowers, or doing similar things, he's probably in love.

What causes a man to fall in love? ›

Physical attraction, sexual compatibility, empathy, and emotional connection are key to making a man fall in love with a woman.

How quickly do men fall in love? ›

The average time for men to fall in love is 88 days, while those same feelings of true love take women 134 days. Another dating site, Elite Singles, did a poll in 2017 and found that 61 per cent of women believe in love at first sight, while 72 per cent of men do. These surveys focused on heterosexual relationships.


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